Do you find that you wait for others to recognize your accomplishments before being proud of them yourself?
Do you struggle to take care of your own needs because you feel unworthy?
Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor I'm taking a break from my series on rejection to comment on another matter.
For those of you who might not know, there is an interesting discussion going on in the Psychology Today blogosphere. White's message is that figuring out what you want in a relationship (and being authentic to who you are) is more important than guessing about what others want you to be (and trying to fit those expectations).
Poor self-worth is what traps us in bad relationships, what sabotages new relationships, and what causes us to feel so devastated and broken when a relationship ends.
Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over.
In fact, they echo the same debate that often goes on in general self-help or dating advice.
Here is my favorite clip from my PBS TV Special called Finding Your Own True Love, which is based on my new dating advice book, Love in 90 Days.
This clip gives you a simple exercise from the book that you can do immediately to turbo-charge your self-confidence in dating!
It takes time and it takes work and it isn’t always easy.
Everyone’s path will be different, but no matter what, having a picture of what high self-esteem looks like, and how it can play out in relationships, is helpful and can help reveal the areas you may need to work on.